Official Blog For Author Fred Stoeker

      I have something on my heart that I felt I had to share with you, Fred. I’ve been reading your book Tactics, and I came to the part that says that turning to masturbation is often more of a “stress reliever” than something we do for sexual pleasure. That’s been very true in my life. I have been dealing with a lot of stress lately. You see, my dad is a pastor, which means that we have to go wherever the Lord calls him to go. He recently just had a call to another church and accepted that call.
      This has been very hard on me because I’ve had to get up and leave my friends. I was very content with where I was living, and giving that up has been very hard and stressful. Sometimes I’ve called on Jesus for peace, patience and comfort, and when I’ve done so, it brings overwhelming joy and peace. But sometimes I turn to masturbation as a stress reliever instead. It relieves the stress, alright, but it’s also very empty and there’s no joy involved.
      I’ve found it just isn’t worth it turning my back on God and taking the easy way out like that. Jesus may not always give us instant relief, but all the stress we go through is for His plan and His purposes. We need to accept that and lean on Him to get through it. When we demand instant relief by turning to masturbation instead, we go against His plan and His purposes, and our character and perseverance are never developed.