Official Blog For Author Fred Stoeker

        I’m a sophomore in college.  My parents got me your book Every Young Man’s Battle when I was a sophomore in high school. I wasn’t struggling with a lot of sexual sin at the time except for masturbation occasionally, but other than that I was living a pretty pure life.  So when I started reading your book, it seemed like it wasn’t the book for me because I hadn’t been looking at pornography, so I just read bits and pieces and then put it away.  

         The following summer I started my slide into porn.  It took me over so fast I didn’t know what to do, and it continued to eat away at me until the summer after my freshman year at college. I was working at a summer camp when I came to my senses and suddenly realized what I was doing to myself. I talked about it to my accountability partner and I decided to stop. It wasn’t easy, but before long, instead of finding satisfaction from porn, I was repulsed by it. I convinced myself that it was over and I never was looking at it again. 

        The problem, though, was that I was still filling myself up with lust from outside sources besides porn.  I had cut porn out of my life, but my heart was still fighting my worldly desires.  After a while, I started dating a girl I have liked all through my spring semester the previous year. Being with her was the greatest feeling I ever had, but after I told her I struggled with sexual sin, she left me on the spot. That was very hard to take at first because I had been free from porn for a while, and thought I was pretty pure. 

        Less than a week later I found your book again, Every Young Man’s Battle. I figured I should start reading it again to see what had gone wrong in my life. The timing of your book couldn’t have been better this time around. What I found changed my life completely!  The most important thing I learned is that becoming sexually pure is more than cutting out porn or masturbation. It is an issue of the heart. I learned so much about how to keep myself pure and to stay pure so that I can tell the next girl I date that I have been pure, and so that I can grow more in God right now. I recommended your book to my leadership team on my hall and I hope they will take it to heart and purify themselves from sexual sin.  God bless your ministry. Keep up the good work.